One of the most common questions we should answer is why you don’t achieve your goals.
“Success Loves Speed”Erik Salzenstein
From Prison to Prosperity & Why You Aren’t Achieving Your Goals #82, Erik Talks about you have the power of change through your actions & your decisions. By building better more meaningful relationships and embracing the fact we are not alone we can achieve whatever success we want, and achieve our goals. Sometimes having an intention is not enough and to turn our life around we need to take the right action and this requires some tips that Erik speaks about in this episode.
But Erik’s life was not always as simple as it sounds from this summary. Erik spent the first half of his current life making the odd wrong decision and recognised swiftly how these had such a negative impact on his life. Needing to change his circumstances and not just wanting to change them he made a positive change. He transformed himself from Prison to Prosperity. A truly humble and genuine soul who has become a friend not only of the show but myself. He is one who practices what he preaches and serves people with his authenticity and skill set.
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[02:30] Making the wrong decisions
[09:30] Prison life
[17:20] The 2 Books that Changed Eriks Life
[30:00] Stretching Your Comfort Zone
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so I really wanted to change I went into prison with this mindset of I’m gonna do whatever it takes in a lot of our listeners can can probably relate to this it’s like I have the health goals I have the fitness goals I have the relationship goals have the career goals I want to write the book I wanna I wanna start the podcast I want to start the business watch you don’t put a game plan in place and if you’re not taking consistent action on that at the end of the day it’s just an intention welcome to an episode of find your voice a movement led by yours truly Aren Deu a guy who was overcome crippling anxiety adversity and difficulty like so many of you in life whose main goal now is to help you combat your excuses take control of your life write your own story and most importantly find your voice so now without further ado I welcome the host of the show himself Mr Aren Deu okay I would like to welcome Eric on to the find your voice today for the second time unfortunately because the first time we had some technical issues and sadly zoom file to record accord but because the episode was so great I thought I don’t want you to just listen to this episode I want to see as well as I’ve made every run around his house he’s going from one room to another he’s not sitting in a bedroom but it looks great because I think you can see his message a lot more and you can almost feel it when you actually see him live so make sure you check out the YouTube video after this but firstly all right welcome to the show Erin I appreciate your brother we’re gonna make it work we’re here audio quality we’re in a good reception and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) in a good room for sound and work and so we’re doing we’re overcome many of these little adversity bring this message to your people so I’m very happy and grateful to be here absolutely that’s what this show is all about so it’s fantastic to have you on not for anyone who doesn’t know every store you’re gonna be amazed at you the way he’s turned his life around because it’s somebody who was really gone through adversity and if we are this is probably a lot of your own full as well for the some of the stuff that you’ve done previously even possibly turned around and you just had some great wins that we spoke about just before this episode so I’m gonna start rumbling help away to tell the listeners the audience a bit about yourself some of the struggles that you’ve been through and where you are today yeah absolutely I appreciate that so it’s been a journey or short and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) overcoming adversity has just been a common theme for me I think the biggest biggest thing is that all might decisions rowing up a lot of them were for the wrong reasons I think a lot of people can relate to this word making decisions in our business and our relationships and our (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) with our help with with all these different areas of life we make them for the wrong reasons and many times we will say no to something good for bad reasons right and that was a common theme for me growing up I mean I grew up in a Catholic household my mom taught me god my dad taught me sports I had no business going down the road that I did but because of the base desires wanting so much to fit and caring so much about what others thought of me wanting to be quarter except in all these things (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I chose to go down a dark path and what started out as a very in a sense I had an entrepreneurial spirit so selling candy and CD’s and six great (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) in middle school you know that that it started here in the city was it you know I was that I was a hostile right is (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and then it escalated because you get the high school selling candy is not a cool thing you know selling mixtapes is not really giving you much right right so (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) at that point I had been exposed to some we friends were smoking and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and and basically I decided well Hey listen I’m gonna be smoking already and we’re gonna be driving out taking the rest of it to go down by like I might as well be the one to have it and so again like in my mind I made this decision for the wrong reasons I want to please my friends I want to make it easier on us and I said Hey I don’t want to spend any money I can do this smokefree whatever so I justified my actions now I start some weed and basically Erin I I mean I went down this path all through high school where it started as we escalated and escalated by the time I was a senior I had multiple people underneath me Celine I was now selling to different schools and despite became a full blown my business like I was running a multi level marketing you know thing with with and and and and in my mind I was an entrepreneur in my mind what I do you all rights and so we can ask for a little bit post high school we had eight hill epidemic that swept through Florida and there’s some famous documentaries I think the biggest ones called the oxycontin express and basically we were you know people are coming from all over the country down to Florida just to get in with our doctors to get these pain killers and then we take them back up north and whatever else (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and distribute them and use them or whatever the case is (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) Florida was like the heart of this and we have doctors that were just over prescribing we had a lot of doctors that went to prison that’s I mean it lost practice days got got arrested because they were dirty it was it was such a money like this was just just like yes ma’am and I got wrapped up into that I was offered an opportunity to basically come in and find an sponsor if you well (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) somebody’s doctor visits and I would be getting half the prescriptions are giving her Simon keeping the rest and I basically started with one person it went to three or four and now I was hopping around from doctor to doctor and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I ended up getting fully addicted to these things so it’s (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) oxy code on rock sees the all the different angular the purpose ads are just all the different hills and I lost myself I mean you talk about like I was a shell of a human being I I I had no direction in life I had no vision I was completely addicted to this my my my whole life revolved around my phone and selling these drugs and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I just went down to really really dark path and it basically all came to a screeching halt in late two thousand twelve where I was actually arrested not for the distribution of these drugs (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) but an armed robbery in what detectives labeled as a drug deal gone bad and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) it was against another drug dealer and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and so yeah that’s that’s that’s at that point time I finally had my back was against the wall and I finally had to come face to face with with myself and all the action I have been taking the previous years and I was facing life in prison at age twenty two years old why why so obviously I’ll head not before but you’ve got a little bit into the and it’s it’s incredible how one decision can massively change your life so for example you mentioned that you were selling candy and CD’s and then all of a sudden you thought hold on a second just to conform to the narrative adjusted look a little bit corny you thought I’m gonna just saw something a little bit more lucrative or little bit Cornish record it and then that decision then obviously meant you start to lose just off of what was effectively happening was you are making decisions that were almost moving away from the true Eric the person that you really ideally want to become and he walked today and effectively you started to see your life spiral out of control and I think when we sit back in hindsight it’s a lot easier to see this is a lot easier to say well Eric that’s such you where you went wrong but so often many of us in life is just not one decision we make on a daily basis let’s get the gym for example today let’s not pick up the phone and let’s not make that court and these are decisions they have a compound affected nothing just very briefly in that store you’ve shown hive the wrong decisions at the wrong time can really leave you in such a such a bad position so at this point now your you’ve gone to jail well I know you not and I know some of the stuff that you do not which is incredible so having wedding gel myself as a social worker it’s one of the scariest places I’ve ever been not put me in a ring and in a boxing ring I’m I’m not scared of nobody put me to jail I did not like the (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) predictability I have my wits against me twenty four seven in fact I just wanna get out of this is much just finished you’ve lived that life tell us about dot all of your journey in terms of how did it feel going from selling weed for example because I want to make sure that the somebody listening he may be making these wrong decisions they just maybe think twice before they end up in jail and secondly how did you turn that around my friend yeah absolutely so I mean it’s another world I’ll say this you know how when you watch an action movie (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) you know it’s Hollywood like everything’s over dine in the explosives in the jumping from one plane to the knacks like these things aren’t happening in real life it’s a movie if you watch a prison movie or documentary it’s the one type of movie that not only is it accurate but most likely there under plain what’s really happening in there because it’s true graphic it’s true gruesome it’s too out there for us to comprehend and each camp each institution is different you can get lucky and about one that’s a little bit better right but segregation is still one hundred percent intact you know like you’re you’re not allowed to be like certain things well you can get hurt just by doing our being a certain way and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) so it really is like stepping back in time in a way and you have to adjust it when I first got there and I was shell shocked shell shocked and I wanted to prison with all intention to change my life remember on a phone call my dad and county jail and I was like box culverts that pops I have no idea how much time I’m going to get but I want you to know that I really really want to change my life in fact I want the exact amount of time god wants me to do to make this happen on a day earlier not a day longer I want the exact amount of time I need to turn this around he was like all right it’s like some we’re gonna get through this you know and and that was like the first time that we had to hold for the future I ended up getting sentenced to four years they offered me a plea deal it was my first time catching any felony charges serious charges I had a are misdemeanors (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) but this is like the first year is charged at eight AM leniency like I got I got I was very fortunate so they offer me for years and I and I took it and so I started my journey when I got there talk about being shell shocked I’m in this New World and within the first week I saw someone get stabbed a soft white and then that the fight had retaliation and I’m just like yo man this is this is just like this is what you get like this is beyond my peas and cues so I really wanted to change I went into prison with this mindset of I’m gonna do whatever it takes in a lot of our listeners can can probably relate to this it’s like I have the health goals I have the fitness goals I have the relationship goals I have the career goals I want to write the book I wanna I wanna start the podcast I once you start the business watch you can have all the intention to do whatever you want if you don’t put a game plan in place and if you’re not taking consistent action on that at the end of the day it’s just an intention and what happens to so many of those awesome new year’s resolutions that we make nothing nothing happens absolutely and the reason for that and the reason for that is because we’re comfortable we stay stock or not putting game plans in place or not following the blueprint we’re not having you don’t have a coach you’re not someone hold this accountable and so we stick to what’s comfortable we stick in our comfort zone and so for me I have the intention of changing but I didn’t know how to do that at that time and I didn’t reach out for anybody I was trying to figure it out so guess what I ended up doing I ended up wasting mine the first six months of my sentence because I went back to what I knew I started glorifying my past and wearing it as a badge of honor I started talking about the drugs in the money and I was you know blah blah blah I even started smoking and selling cigarettes while I was inside prison so I was basically doing the exact same behavior patterns that brought me to prison in the first place only now in a new environment right and I remember saying to myself I never be like Eric what are you doing I had got in a fight we had trouble in the dorm like some drama in the dorm and AG a and it was it was related to drugs with the cigarettes and tobacco like there was there was stuff that was and I wasn’t any gangs but there’s you know gangs or get involved doesn’t care if you’re gonna something’s gonna happen just like something happened on the street stock was going to happen here and you’re not in a gang you’re not like this is like so you’re operating on your own like you are too you’re gonna waste this entire war years and you’re going to come out the exact scene if not worse if you don’t make a change and I’m gonna put this on the listeners right now real quick wherever it is that you want to see change in your life wherever it is it doesn’t matter where whatever’s going on in your mind that you know in your heart I want to change in this area I want to get rid of this bad habit I want to do better over here I want to grow over here wherever that in fact you are six months from today or one year from today still getting the exact same results nothing’s changed doing the same things how are you going to feel how are you going to feel and that was that was the realization I needed to say like you know you gotta do you gotta do something different I don’t know what you got you got you some different so I woke up I I reached out to my brother he’s he’s played a huge role in my overall transformation (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I reached out to my brother I was like Jeff now it’s funny because and I’ll be brief on this Jeff and I story it’s like we’re completely different so like I’m sure a lot of people can relate to this like that the simply not just out shined you yeah (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) just graduated from Stanford University (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I believe school he went on to become a professional tennis player top hundred in the world you want the fastest lap dancers of all time (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) he then went on to become a successful entrepreneur and high performance coach (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) high level executives and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) travel I mean he’s just he’s our incredible human right for me high school drop out drug dealer delinquent addicts (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) convicted felons and ex convicts I mean two completely separate paths in life but I reached out to Jeff I said well I said look man I want to change I really do but I got no idea how or where to start I don’t know what to do and that right there that right there is so so important because let’s go back to the things I mentioned the help goals the career growth their relationship changes and relationship grow the the wanting to start a podcast wanting to take your business online wanting to start speaking from stages whatever it is you need to reach out to somebody and you need to ask for help how do I do that stop trying to figure it out on your own you know like I’m all for taking action to reach out and and look fast track it lets really get you a plan that’s going to work and so (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) that’s what I did I reached out and he got on a call and he just was like alright dude look I’m gonna send you to books I want you to read those and then we’re going to do a coaching call once a week after that and together we created my game plan and for the next three and a half years man I was a I was a sponge and and I would I became obsessed with personal development love the story made thank you for sharing that face the shot to Jeff for obviously helping you that’s a great brother you got that part and basically I just want to acknowledge and I’m sure you know this now that you’re not just the black sheep of the family nine five or you’ll see things that and all the adversity that you don’t back in the day you’ve not turned around secure just yourself or turn it around and don’t always look yes he may have the best hunt said then you’d tennis but you may have with the tray style much but it’s better than him is also one of the things I always want to try and send IT released an episode on this today was about pedestals so very often in life we may just be missing one or two things and if we see that person with those one or two things for example a bit more money than us old Babs for example what we tend to do is put them in high esteem a recall to devalue ourselves so one of the things I want people listening including yourself is always not to devalue your gifts as well which you’ve got many off but what a credible story going back to that NASA made a few notes if I may say one thing I loved about our last episode which is I’m so glad you brought up again was everybody wants to change or everyone has that feeling or desire at least for a short amount of time a wanted to change to get a better relationship to get that bad body to improve their business for example but they don’t do it I’m not slot the million dollar question because you scratch your head and you think other just lazy other procrastinating are they comfortable and you mentioned that was also sometimes I believe if there’s a level of comfort in not passing the less likely to improve because they’ll just be content and they’ll come to stay with it but you answered that question at the end which I’m glad god for love the millions it it’s about hi I’m where I’m finding out and climb collapse in that journey so you hi Jeff on your side this is a lesson for anyone listening there as mentors out there and they could be like your brother Jeff Jacoby everything yourself I know Eric you you’re doing amazing things how can clients as well but also in books as well we can get the blueprint for success for waking out what’s what why mine’s doing whether it’s helping us or whether it’s summer tardiness or if you want to land a businessman I mean he was free give us free for every single one of us we can pretty much find out anything so the question when asked about and you may not remember it because it might be a long time ago do you remember those two books (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) yeah absolutely Tony Robbins awaken the giant within love dogs so that’s gonna be like your that’s going to be your personal development and really really great I mean powerful stuff and in the second book which I don’t think it’s any coincidence because it’s like why would he send me looking back why would he send me this book that I’m about to share with you there’s no why he would send me this book besides the fact that these true books is basically the foundation of how I live my life to date currently so ones like all personal development growth the other one is all business it’s outsourcing its management systems and that’s Timothy Ferris the four hour work week there’s no reason for him to send me that I’m not outsourcing anything I mean sometimes I pay somebody to like you know whatever but yeah random random things clean my I do not like helping someone out but there’s no outsourcing really in prison you’re on your own so (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) but yeah and I want to just mention something not going to be vulnerable and open up on on something that I’m I I recently took actually just yesterday so I am (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I want growth in my life right now in our relationships that’s an area that (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) primarily with women so this is something that I just want maturity like I I think I hold myself to high standards and I have (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I I I I think I offer a lot in terms of being able to show up in a way that’s you know feminine and masculine energy get on the computer could communicate in a way I’m not afraid to show emotion all that good stuff right and I’m I’m definitely an alpha type mail (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I like to say I’m a heart centered out the mail but anyway so but what I what I recognize is that at this point in my life I’ve never spent too much time learning about relationships (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and studying them or getting coaching on them and so I I said to myself is that I want to learn a little bit more on an ice you lean and just the power of of of relationships writing primarily with women and so I bought I bought two books (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) that deal with that and it’s I don’t know what’s going to come of it I have no idea like all I know is it was all my heart so just like I want to mature a little bit in this area of my life and so it’s right away like when you have that thought what ever it is so whenever you have the art of I want to make sure I want to grow I want to learn anything in any area don’t overthink it just go go by the book go Google go make a Google search gold type in a keyword hashtag business coach if you want to start the business or podcast coaching if you wanna start a podcast don’t overthink it take the action and then just reach out (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I just reach out send ten DM’s to ten different coaches and just say Hey just reaching out want to see what’s going on I love what you’re doing I’m curious as I may be interested in starting X. Y. Z. I may be interested in losing this much weight I was just curious to see what you offer and how you can potentially help send ten messages out like that right now in any area that you want to see growth and just wait and see how these people respond some may not get back to you some may be really money hungry and you’re right away like this doesn’t feel right somebody get on a call with you for an hour no charge and you may leave that call feeling so pumped up ready to take take on the world but you don’t know when I should take the action love that I absolutely love that so to find your voice and we use as a metaphor for finding your way life to really find yourself and everything that you want to be called in to get the vote we have to grow and you just when you hit the nail on the head there so in order to grow in anything which is most likely to get the I. M. question and I had for example (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) we procrastinate on it we think we think of all the ways that we call it do it we think of all the excuses for example on average just hit the great point days just take action so if it means going on audible or going on eBay or Amazon for example in order in that book instantly just get going a lot we just both touched on on Google is absolutely free there is no reason why you call and get the information I almost think there’s almost too much information out there and that may cause a bit of over one for a lot of people so it’s just trying to fill that’s pretty the hardest bit filtering dine which information you should listen to as opposed to what you should listen to that’s where the coach comes in yeah and get the right code so in terms of coaching the what kind of culture do you do specifically yeah so when I first got out I was doing some coaching I I started speaking while I was in prison and I started coaching while I was in prison it was it was a gift I discovered (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I got out of my comfort zone and challenge myself I would say this (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) group called gavel club which is like an off branch of Toastmasters international (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I ended up like just loving it fell in love with speaking from state ended up winning a speech contest at my local club and I actually went on to compete against two other prisons while I was in there and I got published in a local newspaper while I was incarcerated so like that was the world that was god given me feedback like this is down for you for sure so (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) then what was happening was people were coming up to me like your Erica you’re definitely operating to a different beat you know what what what what you got going on and so I started coaching I wasn’t charging I was just helping other people out wanted to see change I was running mastermind groups in the dorm and and and I was you know doing things and I called my brother up one night while I was in prison still and I said Jack I think I need to become like a therapist or something because I’m like I really like I really like helping people and he’s like now all right are you I don’t know what a life coach was I didn’t know so he’s like no no no you you don’t have to do that is what you get out I’ll help you you know get set up so it was about nine months after I got out of prison where I about nine months after getting out where I had my first client and she reached out to me and it was for life coach and she was like Hey it looks like you created some great change in your life you know would you be able to be able to help me and so that’s how that started that was my first client and I went on to do life coaching and I had success in that and that was a lot of when I was mandatory under us and top coaches gotten some rooms I had no business being and thanks to my brother again played a big role in my overall growth that’s again guys like just networking rubbing shoulders with better people and (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I invest a lot of money (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) it’s a coaching and and and these programs and so eventually after about let’s see about a year (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I had my first ten K. a month in my in my coaching business I was a true I was selling high ticket twelve week transformation or like a hybrid of life coaching and fitness coaching (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and then after that someone came to me and was like Eric you’re doing great things in your coaching business I see your mentor in under like one of the top online business coaches in the game right help me out me and yeah and so I said alright give me a week let me put something together for you and I’ll come back and so I put this program together I outlined a genius model ever focused on three different main components and I came back and I said this is what we’re gonna do this is what I think you need as a new coach who’s coming online and he said I love it so he took actually signed up with my first client right so he had about a thousand dollars in sales for the entire year prior to working with me in this is a solid coach motivated passionate giving clients results but he just couldn’t sell online programs weren’t selling so we we got started and when we did it was like about forty days is when we actually did the first launch yet at ten thousand five hundred dollar watch so we went we went what he went from one K. for the whole previous years with ten thousand five hundred dollars a month and at that point I’m like jumping for joy I’m like yes like this is legit and you know and it felt so right and so my second client came on to me she had never sold the program online her first watch was a launch and everybody’s different everybody’s different but the thing is I’m showing up so passionately right now (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) into areas and it’s basically I’m just giving the blueprints of how I was able to do two things since getting out of prison in two years how I was able to hit my first ten K. a month in my online coaching business so I help new coaches do the same and how I was able to now get paid to be a speaker and share my message and I help new speakers get on stage so I focus on working with new coaches and new speakers and I have two different programs the five K. blueprints and the speaker blueprint and I’m basically just laying the blueprint out for you step by step bite size pieces on how you can monetize your message how you can how you can bring what you have up here this this skill set the experience the idea and bring it to fruition and I’m just so I mean I’m just so grateful my clients are incredible (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) it’s just been so cool so I’ve been I’ve been maneuvering and operating in this space for the last six months and it just yet feels great man it’s just so grateful for it yes absolutely amazing this is almost like (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) so for example will court find your voice and normal school and then you’ve got college or university about every school where I teach people to share their voice because I think it has such an incredible impact on the world whether you binge read this to you and how you’ve overcome it and everyone’s story hold some power and everyone has a story that’s the beautiful thing we’ve all got our own stories we’ve all got our own perspectives in order to monetize that you then need to go to every school so once you graduate from find your voice if you go to any school within that’s where you can obviously monetized and I absolutely love dot I dare of simply using your truth to hit home the message of an obvious you can make a living from not and that’s what many of the great speakers in the (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) do they will speak their own truth you can tell he’s not regurgitate information I mean your story in itself is not three hundred stores you can probably Kyle and say which is absolutely incredible so the fact that you’re doing something and I can see how excited you are when you’re talking about as all I see one of your clients with the testimony as well the most recent I did just what he did on video the Senate where he gets on he speaking that’s what I was watching your act is the most recent that I put up in yeah I mean he’s such a his it’s like take me out of it right now like okay you could be my ego yeah I played a part but it’s it’s it’s at the end of the day it’s like if you’re somebody who knows you’re meant for more you know you want to help more people you want to impact more people (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) you have a story on the message you have a way of a process approach like that’s what like you’re you’re doing a disservice to people out there who need you and you don’t have to be the absolute best because you are unique and you stand out so you don’t have to worry about everybody else who’s been doing it for longer or has more success or more followers people don’t buy programs they by coaches so people are going to be attracted to you based on how you show up and Mike shows up in such a powerful ways on such a big mission I’m just so grateful to have played a part in his success and it’s an interview but is listening right now who’s on the fence about taking action in in some area of your life to help others whether it’s coaching or speaking anything you have to look at it like this are you not taking action the people who actually need you you’re hurting now you’re doing them a disservice because you’re just sitting around you’re you’re not you’re not moving you know and when you flip the script and take it from from off of you and put it on them now that in society either your available here a lot of that gets relieved because you’ve taken it okay it’s not so much this isn’t about me it’s about the people that I I’m gonna be impacting about them it’s about my future clients I got to get this out I gotta go so yeah I love that dies dies Goldust and it’s also one of the things that helps me do you podcasting is the fact that it’s not about me it’s about the listeners and it’s about the Paris is sharing the stories always let anyone share this story provided I know that that’s just an authentic person I don’t want people coming on and making a salad speech or anything like that to use a profile I just want somebody who has a genuine story I think hold on a minute that’s either a blueprint or it says story of hope for somebody else going through something so I absolutely love that I’m one of the best pieces of advice somebody gave me when I was the Toastmasters about a year ago was I suffer with China’s on is all your top about suffer me standing up on the stage it was not the scariest thing in the world I’ve already said to me he says it’s not about you it’s not about how you look it’s about what can you give the audience in that moment what knowledge in your speech your content that you’re going to deliver can you give them instantly changed so then I was like more focused on this message is really important I need these people to listen to our and we’ll deal with the as I. LA I just move on with it I’m massively massively help me our poll so I don’t think so I’m I’m glad you reiterate that but I also want to ask you something I misspoke about this on the last podcast I was about comfort zones and you said something I wrote it down it is about let me talk together compose on us quite overwhelming and you said something about stretching your comfort zone do remember we had a conversation show what we always hear this the big thing is get out of your comfort zone got to get out of your comfort zone that’s where you’re going to grow and a hundred percent when you’re at when you do step out when you do use (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) what I say is stretching all I’ll share more on that in a second but that that is where growth is going to happen (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and it’s shown time and time again people just say that for no reason like that’s that’s that’s a very real thing but what what you also look at is that getting out of your comfort zone can be a very scary thing getting out of your comfort zone is not an easy thing to do but stretching your comfort zone just taking some small steps in a new direction trying a couple different new techniques or strategies stretching your comfort zone is doable and manageable and so what I encourage people to do is I you know the question I ask is you know where in your life can you stretch your comfort zone just stretch it just start getting better results is it hiring that trainer coach who you know is gonna push you past your so called limits right is it hiring a financial advisor who’s gonna have the microscope on all those questionable decisions but then in turn is also going to give you the game plan you need to hold you accountable to getting in a better place or is it maybe just reaching out to the person who on your heart you know that conversation’s going to either move mountains or create something good but you it’s gonna be a hard conversation because there’s some pain there there’s some friction there it’s not something easy to do but you know in your heart you should reach out to that person that right there those moments where you’re at with you stretch your comfort zone in those areas something special can really happen and and and I mean that’s it shown that time and time again in my in my life and one of the two big things that I I talk about and I I spoke these are my two things I spoke on it might add my Ted talk that I was just on what is he displayed a huge role in my overall transformation while I was inside prison but they need to continue to allow me to excel in just about every area my life since getting out and that’s having a game plan in place that you’re following and stretching your comfort zone pushing past your so called limits stretching it and just expanding expanding expanding those two huge things I mean amongst other nationally but a truancy thanks a lot all of the I think you actually explain that bad this time around might some got got to you get you back for a second episodes hope thank you for that so I’m just gonna segue ever so slightly into your daily routine so two things that you need to game plan and you need to stop scratching yourself your comfort zone but what three things that you have to do on a daily basis yourself that maybe listeners listening today can take away all man yeah that routine is (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) this is this is this is an interesting topic because so one of my mentors (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) Craig Ballantyne he wakes up I think it’s the re he wakes up it’s like funny because he says he wakes up two minutes before the rock but thirty minutes past mark walls compares is yeah and in the occupied Uriel space we talk about like it’s almost like an ego driven thing a cool except (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) Astros getting grinding at four thirty for the morning you gotta do what feels right to you like I’m not saying there’s like one size fits all I I I have times where I’m up at between five and five thirty for weeks or months like when I’m in that zone then all of a sudden now going to be a seven you know what I eat like there’s I don’t think there’s one size fits all on this what you want you want to develop routines that serve you you want to develop routines that work you in eighty eight and then Howard St N. high St so one of the things I mentioned and this definitely comes from Craig here so this is but this is been huge in my in my business is huge in my life is deep work what I mean by deep work is like the big things that you have on your plate the things that are going to move the needle in your business the the passion the passion projects that are really making a difference (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) whatever the big things on your mind that that you want to make sure you attack on a daily basis you want to move that up right to the front of your day like first thing all right and the reason why is because you’re you’re so your mind is fresh and one of the big things for me is like your mind at night time so if I have a big project like right now I’m working on a big workshop and I’m gonna be given out retail and I’ve never given a workshop performance you know speaker so this is a challenge for me what I’m doing is what I work on first thing in the morning before anything is I go when I work on that workshop because my subconscious mind is is working for me while I’m sleeping it’s thinking about that workshop it’s processing what I did the day before and it knows tomorrow morning I’m gonna be getting up and I’m gonna be going to work on my workshop so what happens is because my sub conscious is moving on that thank you know on that I wake up in the morning and I’ve got ideas I I’m already been I’ve been working on it the last sept six to eight hours while I was sleeping so now I wake up and I go right to the deep work I get my deep work in first then from there I take them you know we’re talking a quick breakfast we’re talking a little meditation (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) we’re talking some stretching we’re talking some affirmations if I if I’m if I’m feeling called to do them then I don’t do affirmations on a daily basis (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) but idea here and there it’s kind of like what when it’s on my heart (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) maybe a little bit of reading but all in all I don’t we’re talking I don’t take too much time on this right it’s it’s I want to be in an empowered stay I wanna feel good but it’s let’s keep moving and so the last thing I’ll say on daily routine is always ask yourself what’s the big three things that I need to be focused on right now what are my big three that’s what what are the big three so your big three should be things that are moving the needle in your life and your business and there are things that are really important you know there are things that you can’t overlook the things that are driving you out and pulling you forward right so if health is in a in in if you’re in a position right now where help is just out of whack your doctors don’t need to tighten up you feel it you’re not you’re waking up with low energy like your your your diets horrible that needs to be one of your big thing big three and every single day that has to be one of your primary focuses and then naturally this goes back to we talked about earlier having a game plan in place for your help your workout routine your nutrition right if it’s your business what’s gonna bring more clients what is one thing that you need to be doing on a daily basis that’s going to bring in more clients right whatever insure that is that’s guaranteed gonna be one of your big three and so I would definitely say deep work first thing in the morning that’s been huge for me and always having a big three in place because that’s sure you you know we’re got you have like it’s not just like all right we’re going today what’s next like you’re moving you you you have direction you have cleared your building and then of course having those game plans in place in the different areas it’s all part of it too so hope hope that was you wanted clarity or like me to dive deep or anything like that please ask what that was however it’s not that was absolutely incredible and you’ve linked it to what you’re saying L. S. Aug broke notes here so I’m gonna have a good status to do myself because the most important thing you said was it needs to serve you so so often we see somebody’s routine away instantly try to copy and I lifestyle might be completely different we might be working directions we might have children (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) we might have to take the dog out for the war so we need to think of our own lifestyle and then amend that boat I love the whole D. work thing I think when you’re in a state of flow you can obviously get the most on the big three is something I practice (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) Brian Tracy eat that frog I think we have to do that we have to get the one thing out the way that’s going to move the needle forward but then it all comes back to you when you have that big three listed have a game plan in place and stretch your comfort zone on it so absolutely fantastic on says that my and that is going to actually lead us into the pump on the show’s apologies you’re going to do this a second time my friend so whenever you’re ready we’re gonna jump straight into it let’s do it okay so Eric the ability to fly or be invisible why okay the number one thing that annoys you I tempted to say ignorance but just like a lack of regard for other people if you could abolish one thing in the world what would it be first thought was hatred why you secretly good at that nobody knows wake boarding if you could sit with one person for another dead or alive who would it be I’m tempted to go with Tony Robbins what is your biggest addiction this is possibly could be a bad thing too but I think a little bit of still like people pleasing out Adam berry quarter level addictions (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) just people please and I do it in a way that’s very positive but it also could be in a way that could hurt as well your favorite TV show (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) billions was really good finally what song best describes your life by (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) he’s a faith based rapper names look crazy (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) L. A. C. R. E. A. and the song is called him our time okay that’s the end of the phone part of the show so every grade that’s the hard the hard fought to be honest you’re the fastest enough did not stopped on the questions but don’t worry we don’t deal with the order well I’ll do is I’ll strip it out so it makes it a lot you really really quick so don’t worry about the tricks okay so that leads us to question on reflection so with everything that you know not all of your knowledge having mentors around you haven’t leveled up yourself so much as well if you could maybe go back to a younger Eric maybe before you started dot series of bad decisions and you could whisper something in a younger Eric’s yeah what would you say would definitely go back to what I mentioned with the kids like not that don’t care so much about what others are thinking of you you are unique person you’re meant to do something in this world you don’t have to have it figured out right now but just just stay the course (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) you know do you do not have to make your decisions based on others make your decision based on what what feels right to you (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I mean all so many my decisions were based around you know bringing making others think that I was cool or like I was just so concerned with what others thought (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and then another big piece of advice that it would it would depend on what age I was but success love speed and in perfect action is better than no action so just move just take just take action just try the thing don’t overthink it just try and go after it if you don’t like it get rid of it try something else but imperfect action is better than no action success love speed get after it and have fun doing it I love the and how fun is all love dot and that certainly does bring us to the last question of the show Eric and the last question is about legacy so if a hundred fifty years time signs out to save us and all that exists is a book and this book is about you it’s about your life’s about from where you started all of the amazing things that you did to your last breath firstly what would the title of the book B. and secondly well the summer at the back tell us about you in order to get the listener to pick it up and you are like the question change your thought provoking serious questions like all right so the title is something drawn between Mike’s you make connection the power of human connection and the power of change something in there right so we’re gonna have to we have to bring someone on higher than absolute (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) but but it would be it would be about those two things that M. U. R. ever no matter where you’re at your life matter who you think you are no matter what store you’re holding on to you no matter how you brought were brought up the matter what damage you’ve seen done been through you have the power to change and create whatever you want your life so that’s that’s a big component and the other big component is going to life with a with a mind set up connections are connecting and and connection and and just the power in relationships and knowing that this world is like enjoy enjoy the people around you and enjoy in grace the fact that you’re not you’re not alone and you may feel like you’re alone but you’re not and and just there is (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) I I think it’s just it’s easy to stay in our little bubbles and our the way our little routines in our little world but there’s just so much opportunity to meet so many amazing people out there and the more people I meet the better people I connect with the more I love a lot and the more the better I feel about this world so I think it’s a mix of the power of change and the power of human connection as a love that and it’s funny you said that so I had the notes from my last episode here I one of the things I bookstore was you said the power of change that you said in the first four or five minutes of the last episode so I’m really glad that you kind of put that in to your book title so I actually that kind of goes in what you’re doing so thank you for sharing that not it before close the show and I give everyone a chance to follow you on social media and connect with you which are massively massively at every single person today after this episode is there any questions that you wish I may have asked you or anything else you wanna leave the audience with that’s it that’s a great question (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) now you do you do such a good job man you’re you’re you’re operating from such a place of service that it just shows and interviews very just it’s it’s very heartfelt it’s easy (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) your I’ve been on a lot of high gasoline you do you do an incredible job thank you (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) so I don’t have any questions I wish you would have asked but I will say it again going back in just telling everybody to move on what you want to move on take action don’t overthink it (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) if I can play a role in that (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) please don’t hesitate to reach out I’m I’m here to serve not sell so if if there is something like I’m the guy you you don’t have to buy my stuff I will voice note you back (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) if we’re not a good fit you’re still gonna leave my interaction with me feeling better about yourself you’re gonna have a value you’re gonna be feeling better about the world around you I still don’t think that if you reach out to me it’s like all right I’m gonna sell you into coaching like if I can serve you and it feels right for both of us and we can talk about that (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) if you are a new coach who wants to take your business online or if you’re a coach you hasn’t hit your first five K. a month yet in your business (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) or if you’re somebody who wants to get on stage and share your story (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) as as a public speaker you know then then we can talk about that bottom line is (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) whether it’s me or someone else reach out to somebody let him know where you’re struggling let him know Hey I’m looking to get some insight or perspective in this area (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and again I’m the person that would love to do that whether you’re a paying client or not (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) it’s a value just exchange and and I’m here to serve so I got the invite you guys are all the listeners trump check me out on Instagram I last name axles and seen our first name Facebook Eric souls and seen at work with the K. (subscribe to find your voice to learn why you don’t achieve your goals) and my website is currently under maintenance by Eric sols and Steve dot com so it’s been an absolute pleasure and I and I can’t thank you enough you have me on for the second time absolutely I’m grateful to have you on for a second times also every Cox and my hand to you thank you my pleasure brother so for everyone else at home make sure you check out Eric’s tunnels check him out on Instagram he’s di di videos now I’ve noticed a lot more videos is very active on the post as well there’s a lot of knowledge a lot of wisdom so I’m gonna try and dissect this and try to make a few short YouTube videos as well for you guys to kind of go back maybe reassess your goals and break out that game plan and then obviously if you need a bit more help on that do reach out to every because I’m sure he’s more than happy to help you so as always thanks for listening and remember this podcast is absolutely free so all we ask in return is for you to share this with a friend and drop us a five star review over on iTunes have an awesome day hopefully when I press stop and I was going to record so it yeah let’s cross all and all I’ve never done three podcast never done to this is the first endeared I’d still go it again would you like it’s all good but yeah hopefully hopefully this does record