Stop Putting People on a Pedestal #79

Stop Putting People on a Pedestal #79

Stop putting people on a pedestal! This is because putting people on a pedestal is a dangerous game that will not serve you. It simply has no benefit to your happiness or mental health. Furthermore, it will cause you to behave and act in a manner that actually adds very little to your own progress. Now I am not sitting here preaching about this, like I haven’t done it. I have. I have put people on a pedestal many times in the past. But since I stopped doing that, my world started to change. Since I started to recognise my own powers, traits and strengths I became much happier in my own skin. I want this for you too.

“Don’t compare yourself to 1 area of someone elses life”

Aren Deu

So there’s a few reasons we need to stop this

1. Yes the first is comparison is the thief of joy, but if you are comparing yourself with an influencer or a rich person because you don’t have many followers or much money, the chances are you will begin to feel low and almost indirectly subconsciously conform to that persons narrative. You will Be more likely to believe or listen to them on their own matters and personal opinions irrespective of what the truth actually is. Why is this a problem?

2. Well the second point is it forces you to not think. It forces you to hold someone in such high esteem based off 1 or 2 traits you then loosely accept their views and don’t give yourself the chance to conjure and manifest your own thoughts that’s a dangerous place! You will just simply become a sheep and for what? Is it because you have a few less pounds in your account You are so worth more than that.

3. What about their other values and characteristics? Listen I am all for people creating wealth and earning shit loads of money. It’ll eradicate many of your daily stresses and struggles, it’ll teach you money isn’t the be and end all and it’ll also hopefully, if you’re a good person which I know you are if you made it this far or listen to these types of podcasts do more good in the world. But what about their integrity? Their values? Their charitable nature? Are they treating their spouse right? Do they treat the janitor at the local store the same way they treat investors or show themselves on social media? How do they speak to their parents, or their children? I could go on. But so often we look at what we are lacking, and try to find that in others.

4. Now this moves me onto point 4. We need to look at what we find inspiring in others and leave it there. We need to not compare, or down value ourselves and recognise that we all have our own journeys. You may have excelled far greater in compassion and kindness than financial gain. So now all you need to do is work out how to level up your finances, or social status or physique depending on what you need or desire. We need to move the conversation back to ourselves and work on masking our potential out so that we can in turn, be proud of ourselves. Progression is key in this and although I encourage looking t people for the blueprint or who have it as a reason why its possible for you, I never want it to be a reason why you disregard your own voice, your own skills and ability to do and become much more.

Service is everything

So I just wanted to leave it there as this is something I’ve done too. I’ve been doing work of service most my life. I’ve always tried to be as kind as possible, I’ve always remained loyal to my spouse, my friends and family. Yet I have too been in situations where I’ve held people in high regard because they’ve had more influential stance than me or more money. But now I don’t. You see I recognised very quickly, my relationships and thoughts are the key to my own happiness. I have amazing relationships and as I progress I’m slowly having more empowering and greater thoughts. These thoughts in turn lead to better decisions and actions and my life is pretty kick ass right now!

Had I stayed in comparison mode, who knows how id feel about myself? Who knows how far id push myself or think for myself. So make sure you seriously try to stop putting people on a pedestal & begin to lift yourself up to where you desire.

I do not want you to just be a drifter through your life, a term I took from an incredible book ill be filling you all in very soon!

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what I don’t want to do is compare yourselves to them just based on one area of their life that they choose to show you welcome to an episode of find your voice a movement led by yours truly Aren Deu a guy who was overcome crippling anxiety adversity and difficulty like so many of you in life whose main goal now is to help you combat your excuses take control of your life write your own story and most importantly find your voice so now without further ado I welcome the host of the show himself Mr Aren Deu what’s going on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice my name is iron out as always I am the host of the show so to them to be speaking about putting people on a pedestal something the I feel so so strongly about I’m the reason I feel so strongly about it is because I’ve done it all have putting people on pedestals for a lot of my life you from being completely honest with you and at the same time very recently people start to do that with me not this is not I promise you any type of humble brag or anything like that because I am about as normal as they come and if you listen to my podcast previously I would always openly discussed my floors my vulnerabilities my mistakes which at the many I. D. see myself as a king of mistakes I just before the transparent in everything that I do so I I’m not somebody who ever wants to be seen as achieving good doing something that other people caught do trust me order the things I have achieved have just mainly come through hard work Lenny from my mistakes and just persevering and if you guys do that while you listen to the show in what ever having you want to do I promise you over a long enough period of time you will achieve whatever it is that you desire so what do we do it why do we actually put people on a pedestal well I’ve actually been working on this for a walnut avenues only recently I had this kind of a pay for the moment where I thought Hey I need to stop this and the mobile I stopped it mall I guard my will start to change so (subscribe to find your voice podcast & stop putting people on a pedestal) generally speaking is mommy like something I wanna say like something I mean like something in the current state not something that we would never have but just right now I or is something that maybe we desire that we see somebody else accumulating or possessing and effectively what that does is it forces us to kind of ignore all of our amazing give sort of our amazing beauty and order things that we have a quiet I just focus on that one thing for example I operate a few spaces in the fitness industry is very very easy to get yourself in incredible shape really were caught for years and years and years and say I just wish my ABS was slightly more defined or just wish my biases was slightly bigger this happens trust me its core body dysmorphia and it really does suck away a lot of the programs and kind of forces them to focus on the things that they don’t have at the same time in property the first question people ask him property is how many properties do you have a little bit like the fitness industry where is how much the bands and these kind of questions although they probably said with no malice they call just to compare ourselves so it’s very easy for people’s demeanor is in the way that people view of the people to change when they see somebody who possesses something that maybe they want desire or don’t currently have right now for example you could be a very successful property invest and you could have a hundred properties all I promise you people’s attitudes toward you is going to change now this is a problem and I’m gonna speak about why this is a problem and hopefully these follow him for personal makes so much sense to you and hopefully after this episode you can stop when people on a pedestal and really start to put yourself where you need to be so firstly obviously it’s a comparison game and we all know the incredible quote comparison is the thief of joy I speak about it with a time especially comparing with perception as well but if you’re comparing yourself with an influencer or rich person just because you don’t have that many follow is or that much money the chances are that you’re gonna start to feel low and what’s even worse is you’re gonna start to conform to that passes narrative you would likely find yourself believing or listening to their opinions on situations a lot more irrespective of what the truth is for example there could be a really really rich person that you think wow I just want to be that rich and the whatever comes out of that Matthew instantly believing because for you your thinking well they must be right in order to be that rich well actually no these things are always link you can be a very very bad person but still be very very rich you can be a very very would pass in and still be very very poor to do not link everything and don’t do that thing and trust me I’ve done it myself is where I’ve since somebody I hold in high esteem for one particular asset (subscribe to find your voice podcast & stop putting people on a pedestal) area of their life and I’m just believe everything that they said when actually when I did a bit more self reflection and self analysis on that situation I realize hold on a minute this person might have the business side of their life going towards planned but what about the health what about the relationships what about the way that they treat other people and then I thought hold on a minute let’s not done by US south so the second point is we start to W. ourselves and it kind of forces to hold someone is such high is the base of just one or two traits I’m we don’t give us and as a result we just nuski accept their views I don’t really give ourselves the time to think what to manifest our own reality and this is a very very dangerous pace you see you simply just become a sheep and for what because I have a few more photos in you were a few more pounds of the bank account seriously you always saw so much more than that and I have put myself down on so many aspects of my life because I just talked to see is one of those things where everything you’ve achieved in life becomes almost not worth it because you’re still trying to acquire this one thing well how about we stake a step back how about everyone takes a step not right this second and thinks about all of the amazing things that you’ve done yes you might not have your tenth house where you might not have a million pounds in the bank how many people have you helped in your life how many times have you been low to a friend how many times have you shown compassion holiness or just being grateful for the little things that you have in life trust me those things are just as important especially as I truly truly believe that happiness is the goal that were what after I don’t suppose this kind of news me on to my third point which is about their values and characteristics you see on all four people created a shit load of wealth and earning a hell of a lot of money yes and I’m or for the and I used to come from poverty mindset I promise you but his a kit kat it also teach you that money isn’t the be an endo and also hopefully if you are a good person you do more with that money so I know if you listen to this kind of podcast the self out mental health podcast the chances are that you want to be a good person all actually the scratch that you are a good person and so if you’re a good person then obviously acquiring more money would just after the fire the kind of person that you are you will be able to help a hell of a lot more people so as a result of that recognize it recognize that and hold yourself in high esteem get those shoulders a polite Chester and then start to think about the things that you don’t have and then look at the people that you follow in life so most often or not we follow people because we feel that they bring us by you off some aspect and that’s absolutely fine I do the same thing I follow certain people because they add to my life and I don’t discourage you from doing that what I don’t want to do is compare yourselves to them just based on one area of their life that they choose to show you you see we may see somebody who’s very successful a mayor and a lot of money but they might be a narcissist behind closed doors we may see somebody he when you’re around them over the karma shining the holding doors for people or when you’re not with them they’re not silly all sold trust me these people exist I CM operate in many of the industries I operate in as well so I don’t want you there feeling law about yourself with thinking that your not where the went actually you all with the the only issue is you haven’t mustered one area of your life that that person has and that’s okay because one thing that Dame mustering it has taught you or at least it should teach you is that is possible in fact it’s actually possible whether you’re good or bad you do not necessarily need to be a good person in order to achieve a hell of a lot of wealth of course you’re more likely to do it because of relationships but generally speaking there are anomalies out there as well so why not put yourself on the back and then think okay I need to not plug this area of my life really improve on that and that’s just gonna come through hardware that’s just gonna come from finding the right blueprint and staying on your course they’d on your JD right in your story that’s what I want from you I’m not leads me over two point four which is bringing the conversation back to ourselves I’m welcome Max in our our own potential and to be proud of ourselves you see there’s nothing wrong with being inspired by the people I promise you you can be inspired by as many as you want I do as well sometimes I need to look at someone and think not present as a blueprint dot pay secondary so can I and that’s the kind of mindset that you need to have well it’s only gonna wake if you bring it back to yourself you call it judge your life based on somebody else for all we know without pay some I have ordered the money in the world but they might have no relationships around them what’s more important I mean if you ask me what I wrote a hot ten times more money in my bank account but give up two of my best friends or would I rather have my best friends as they were I’m yeah it’s a simple relationship for me is everything is relationships are progressing through life for money Jim own thoughts that really dictate my happiness so how did not money obviously would help but I’m also wise enough I used to like to think that that’s something that I can achieve does something like an odd throughout my life but it’s very very difficult to get good relationships with people relations to stop lasted four year is based on trust integrity compassion quietness those are the things that you should be putting yourselves in about four not just the things that you think you are missing so this episode has been a bit off the cuff in terms of I just had something on my mind I really wanted to share with you will because I feel it’s also important we’re in a society now where we just don’t value ourselves enough and we had the soft lover me Hey the software almost too much if I’m being completely honest because it becomes a bit well suppose we just become desensitized to it really I don’t want that I want you to recognize your own pa your old by you just because you’re missing one thing does not mean you’re a failure or you’re not with it without somebody else deserves more credit than you what you need to hold them in such high esteem that you almost have to dial by yourself it’s a very very dangerous place to pull people above you you are your own view for self you are just as important as out next person and just because you don’t have as much money or as many followers please please please do not die value a soft you have enough to give in this world everybody has a story every single person as a voice do not let anyone ever make you feel that you’re not ready to say on that table with them well you’re not where the two share your voice because you are less and if I’m standing here as a very very anxious old mine he’s not got more gray has than he ever wished he would have cherry my voice in finding my power and being an advocate for people without a voice I’m going to my Janie then you can do it too and I just hope that through these episodes that you do a lot quicker than me with a lot less heartache and of course with so much more happiness along the way so I’m gonna leave this episode here gain a hope you find value in this I hope you really stop with people on a pedestal and just go out there really were confined in your own voice and as always people thanks for listening and remember this podcast is absolutely free so all we ask in return is for you to share this with a friend and drop us a five star review over on iTunes have an awesome day what I don’t want to do is compare yourselves to them just based on one area of their life that they choose to show you welcome to an episode of find your voice a movement led by yours truly Aren Deu a guy who was overcome crippling anxiety adversity and difficulty like so many of you in life whose main goal now is to help you combat your excuses take control of your life write your own story and most importantly find your voice so now without further ado I welcome the host of the show himself Mr Aren Deu what’s going on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice my name is iron out as always I am the host of the show so to them to be speaking about putting people on a pedestal something the I feel so so strongly about I’m the reason I feel so strongly about it is because I’ve done it all have putting people on pedestals for a lot of my life you from being completely honest with you and at the same time very recently people start to do that with me not this is not I promise you any type of humble brag or anything like that because I am about as normal as they come and if you listen to my podcast previously I would always openly discussed my floors my vulnerabilities my mistakes which at the many I. D. see myself as a king of mistakes I just before the transparent in everything that I do so I I’m not somebody who ever wants to be seen as achieving good doing something that other people caught do trust me order the things I have achieved have just mainly come through hard work Lenny from my mistakes and just persevering and if you guys do that while you listen to the show in what ever having you want to do I promise you over a long enough period of time you will achieve whatever it is that you desire so what do we do it why do we actually put people on a pedestal well I’ve actually been working on this for a walnut avenues only recently I had this kind of a pay for the moment where I thought Hey I need to stop this and the mobile I stopped it mall I guard my will start to change so (subscribe to find your voice podcast & stop putting people on a pedestal) generally speaking is mommy like something I wanna say like something I mean like something in the current state not something that we would never have but just right now I or is something that maybe we desire that we see somebody else accumulating or possessing and effectively what that does is it forces us to kind of ignore all of our amazing give sort of our amazing beauty and order things that we have a quiet I just focus on that one thing for example I operate a few spaces in the fitness industry is very very easy to get yourself in incredible shape really were caught for years and years and years and say I just wish my ABS was slightly more defined or just wish my biases was slightly bigger this happens trust me its core body dysmorphia and it really does suck away a lot of the programs and kind of forces them to focus on the things that they don’t have at the same time in property the first question people ask him property is how many properties do you have a little bit like the fitness industry where is how much the bands and these kind of questions although they probably said with no malice they call just to compare ourselves so it’s very easy for people’s demeanor is in the way that people view of the people to change when they see somebody who possesses something that maybe they want desire or don’t currently have right now for example you could be a very successful property invest and you could have a hundred properties all I promise you people’s attitudes toward you is going to change now this is a problem and I’m gonna speak about why this is a problem and hopefully these follow him for personal makes so much sense to you and hopefully after this episode you can stop when people on a pedestal and really start to put yourself where you need to be so firstly obviously it’s a comparison game and we all know the incredible quote comparison is the thief of joy I speak about it with a time especially comparing with perception as well but if you’re comparing yourself with an influencer or rich person just because you don’t have that many follow is or that much money the chances are that you’re gonna start to feel low and what’s even worse is you’re gonna start to conform to that passes narrative you would likely find yourself believing or listening to their opinions on situations a lot more irrespective of what the truth is for example there could be a really really rich person that you think wow I just want to be that rich and the whatever comes out of that Matthew instantly believing because for you your thinking well they must be right in order to be that rich well actually no these things are always link you can be a very very bad person but still be very very rich you can be a very very would pass in and still be very very poor to do not link everything and don’t do that thing and trust me I’ve done it myself is where I’ve since somebody I hold in high esteem for one particular asset (subscribe to find your voice podcast & stop putting people on a pedestal) area of their life and I’m just believe everything that they said when actually when I did a bit more self reflection and self analysis on that situation I realize hold on a minute this person might have the business side of their life going towards planned but what about the health what about the relationships what about the way that they treat other people and then I thought hold on a minute let’s not done by US south so the second point is we start to W. ourselves and it kind of forces to hold someone is such high is the base of just one or two traits I’m we don’t give us and as a result we just nuski accept their views I don’t really give ourselves the time to think what to manifest our own reality and this is a very very dangerous pace you see you simply just become a sheep and for what because I have a few more photos in you were a few more pounds of the bank account seriously you always saw so much more than that and I have put myself down on so many aspects of my life because I just talked to see is one of those things where everything you’ve achieved in life becomes almost not worth it because you’re still trying to acquire this one thing well how about we stake a step back how about everyone takes a step not right this second and thinks about all of the amazing things that you’ve done yes you might not have your tenth house where you might not have a million pounds in the bank how many people have you helped in your life how many times have you been low to a friend how many times have you shown compassion holiness or just being grateful for the little things that you have in life trust me those things are just as important especially as I truly truly believe that happiness is the goal that were what after I don’t suppose this kind of news me on to my third point which is about their values and characteristics you see on all four people created a shit load of wealth and earning a hell of a lot of money yes and I’m or for the and I used to come from poverty mindset I promise you but his a kit kat it also teach you that money isn’t the be an endo and also hopefully if you are a good person you do more with that money so I know if you listen to this kind of podcast the self out mental health podcast the chances are that you want to be a good person all actually the scratch that you are a good person and so if you’re a good person then obviously acquiring more money would just after the fire the kind of person that you are you will be able to help a hell of a lot more people so as a result of that recognize it recognize that and hold yourself in high esteem get those shoulders a polite Chester and then start to think about the things that you don’t have and then look at the people that you follow in life so most often or not we follow people because we feel that they bring us by you off some aspect and that’s absolutely fine I do the same thing I follow certain people because they add to my life and I don’t discourage you from doing that what I don’t want to do is compare yourselves to them just based on one area of their life that they choose to show you you see we may see somebody who’s very successful a mayor and a lot of money but they might be a narcissist behind closed doors we may see somebody he when you’re around them over the karma shining the holding doors for people or when you’re not with them they’re not silly all sold trust me these people exist I CM operate in many of the industries I operate in as well so I don’t want you there feeling law about yourself with thinking that your not where the went actually you all with the the only issue is you haven’t mustered one area of your life that that person has and that’s okay because one thing that Dame mustering it has taught you or at least it should teach you is that is possible in fact it’s actually possible whether you’re good or bad you do not necessarily need to be a good person in order to achieve a hell of a lot of wealth of course you’re more likely to do it because of relationships but generally speaking there are anomalies out there as well so why not put yourself on the back and then think okay I need to not plug this area of my life really improve on that and that’s just gonna come through hardware that’s just gonna come from finding the right blueprint and staying on your course they’d on your JD right in your story that’s what I want from you I’m not leads me over two point four which is bringing the conversation back to ourselves I’m welcome Max in our our own potential and to be proud of ourselves you see there’s nothing wrong with being inspired by the people I promise you you can be inspired by as many as you want I do as well sometimes I need to look at someone and think not present as a blueprint dot pay secondary so can I and that’s the kind of mindset that you need to have well it’s only gonna wake if you bring it back to yourself you call it judge your life based on somebody else for all we know without pay some I have ordered the money in the world but they might have no relationships around them what’s more important I mean if you ask me what I wrote a hot ten times more money in my bank account but give up two of my best friends or would I rather have my best friends as they were I’m yeah it’s a simple relationship for me is everything is relationships are progressing through life for money Jim own thoughts that really dictate my happiness so how did not money obviously would help but I’m also wise enough I used to like to think that that’s something that I can achieve does something like an odd throughout my life but it’s very very difficult to get good relationships with people relations to stop lasted four year is based on trust integrity compassion quietness those are the things that you should be putting yourselves in about four not just the things that you think you are missing so this episode has been a bit off the cuff in terms of I just had something on my mind I really wanted to share with you will because I feel it’s also important we’re in a society now where we just don’t value ourselves enough and we had the soft lover me Hey the software almost too much if I’m being completely honest because it becomes a bit well suppose we just become desensitized to it really I don’t want that I want you to recognize your own pa your old by you just because you’re missing one thing does not mean you’re a failure or you’re not with it without somebody else deserves more credit than you what you need to hold them in such high esteem that you almost have to dial by yourself it’s a very very dangerous place to pull people above you you are your own view for self you are just as important as out next person and just because you don’t have as much money or as many followers please please please do not die value a soft you have enough to give in this world everybody has a story every single person as a voice do not let anyone ever make you feel that you’re not ready to say on that table with them well you’re not where the two share your voice because you are less and if I’m standing here as a very very anxious old mine he’s not got more gray has than he ever wished he would have cherry my voice in finding my power and being an advocate for people without a voice I’m going to my Janie then you can do it too and I just hope that through these episodes that you do a lot quicker than me with a lot less heartache and of course with so much more happiness along the way so I’m gonna leave this episode here gain a hope you find value in this I hope you really stop with people on a pedestal and just go out there really were confined in your own voice and as always people thanks for listening and remember this podcast is absolutely free so all we ask in return is for you to share this with a friend and drop us a five star review over on iTunes have an awesome day. 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